You Can't Mess it Up and You Can't Get it Right

We rejoin the discussion with Tripp Lanier as he shares a powerful story about an exchange with Zen Master Jun Po Roshi.

Ray Brejcha and Tripp talk about the dangers of becoming a “wound worshipper”, how your wariness makes others wary of you and how your secrets ultimately own you.

Also, listen as the benefits of getting real with your fears and the transformation of sharing them with others is revealed.

In this episode:

The gift of being smacked with a stick
A valuable lesson from Jun Po
Living a paradox
“You can’t fuck it up and you can’t get it right”
Working so hard to get it right and not screw it up
Play full out and have fun with the screw ups
Sacred Laughter
Learning to recognize when you feel less whole
What gets in the way of your potential
Shadow work mixed with meditation
Waiting to open up until you trust someone
Wariness begets wariness
Trying to protect yourself actually pushes people away
Being less approachable, intimidating
Pushing away people that actually want to help
Becoming a retreat, seminar or workshop junkie
How to melt shame
Terminal uniqueness Making things less significant without being dismissive
Don’t be a wound worshipper
Your secrets kill you — get them “out there”It’s not that bad when you put it out there
Having your friends help you see what is driving you
What are you scared of?
What are you defending yourself against?
Notice what you’re avoiding. Can you be playful with that?
Tell someone what you’re scared of
Being more trustworthy
The energy drain of “keeping it all together”
Where the juice, depth and meaning in life is for you